Tag Archives: Emotional Intelligence

Does Your Leadership Story Need a Re-Write?

In my book, Step Up Now, 21 Powerful Principles for People Who Influence Others, the first principle is “Be. Know. Do.”  Leaders, to be effective, must possess self-awareness. Who are you being? Over the next two weeks, I borrow from Leading Blog on this exact question.  This week we explore the context and warning signs.  Next week we’ll examine possible solutions.   Rosamund Stone Zander, the author of one of my favorite leadership books, The Art of Possibility, describes in Pathways to Possibility that “often, our growth requires that we live a new story. We are not “trained to think …

The Surprising Secret Behind Successful Job Performance is….

This week’s blogpost focuses on a skill that is the most critical driver of overall performance.  Can you guess? According to Marcel Schwantes in an Inc. magazine article of 1/31/17, this skill would not only help you be aware of and even experience the thoughts and feelings of others—it would even help you have successful conversations. The skill is empathy. Research from a firm that has studied leadership for 46 years, Global training giant Development Dimensions International (DDI) shows that “ optimal leadership can be boiled down to having dozens of “fruitful conversations” with others, inside and outside your organization.” …

The Value of “Un-Labelling” to Leadership

This week’s post borrows from “TED Works: The Empowerment Dynamic.” As a lifelong learner, I discovered the TED work through a class I took for coaches.   It struck a chord and I’ve been helping clients gain helpful perspective from this relevant model ever since. Written just “two days after the very dramatic and chaotic US Presidential election,” I share their perspective here. “Much has been said already about what will change. Most of us fear change, including big change that this election will create for just about everyone. During this time of chaos, we prefer to become like “sociologists,” observing …

Having doubts as a leader?

I work with leaders who often have big dreams—visionary individuals who, when they begin to work, find their ideas are often outside the mainstream of the marketplace.  These individuals possess a rare combination of abilities; high degrees of creativity, tempered with equally high analytic horsepower.  I am constantly amazed to watch as they go back and forth, honoring the need to rigorously employ both domains. However, one thing you may not expect is that these same people often struggle with their minds—or specifically their habitual thoughts. They also struggle with the emotional tug of war that goes on inside, when …

How Do You Manage in the Gray?

This week’s Step Up Leader Tips borrows from Leading Blog.  We outline an approach to a common leadership conundrum:  How To Manage in the Gray? Leadership today requires more than ever before.  Leaders need to make decisions based on facts, and to discern the difference between opinion and fact.  They need to analyze what is known, to integrate seemingly unrelated fields, and often under extreme time pressure. In his book, “Managing in the Gray,” Joseph Badaracco offers us 5 key questions to help. He urges readers to avoid temptation to skip one or pick a favorite.  “This approach improves deliberation …